Choose any animal and watch their behavior. They try hard to please their female counter parts and they do it irresistantly till the females agree to mate with them. Here one sex (male) is competitive with same-sex members and the other sex (female) is choosy to pick individual to mate with. Male win a fierce competition by heavy courtship, fighting or holding large territory to tempt female for mating. Ultimately it’s a female choice to select a partner or the particular trait, in other sense, she wants to mate with.
Human really need to learn this from animals and behave like a gentle animal. I admire their consistency and passion to roam around the female animal and strive hard until she selects one male partner for copulation. Have you seen this usual behavior of animals in men?? Very few lie in this category and we have classified them as gentle man. Amazing all animals fall in this category!!
Usual claim is men are generally very egoistic and they find it unbearable to listen NO from a woman. And consequently they (who are less animal) apply force to convert NO to yes. They assume it satisfies their male ego BUT actually it is satisfying their unevolved feminine quality. Patriarchal men relate feminine word with weakness and vulnerability and as per their notion, they themselves inhibiting these qualities in worst forms.
Taking rejection is unbearable for a woman when she trusts herself, open and embraces her feminity in full force and come forward without any fear. Rejection directly pierces their deep, passionate and soulful essence of being a woman.
We have many tales of explaining this unique essence of a woman and something which is learnt and understood at ancient time are relevant throughout the time. Feminine sexual essence is highly revered in out ancient texts and they advocated that woman’s desire should be honored and it’s man’s utmost duty to fulfill that. In earlier time there would a ritual ceremony where queen summon to the king after her ritual bath (after menstruation period) and king was morally bound to come to the queen and satisfy her wish. In Mahabharata, Arjuna during his exile period accepted Ullupi’s advance, embraced her feminine nature and revered the spirit of womanhood more than his celibacy vow. While on the other hand, he faced a curse of being an eunuch for refusing Urvashi’s wish. He had to face the wrath of a woman to disallowing her feminine sexual essence.
Men have insecurities in denial because they don’t have trust on their own self and their capability to attract other sex. Thus, they cannot be equated with animals when it comes for selection of a partner; it is always a female’s choice in their world. So feminine category and animal category is out from the options. The real category is yet to be searched.
That's very true Sunita. Nice post
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